Valentine's Day

For those of you who don't know me well, I am not a fan of most holidays. I love the 4th of July, Thanksgiving and New Years but really nothing else. I find most holidays force people to do things they wouldn't do unless they had to because of the holiday. I hate Christmas. I love giving people presents though. I just hate being forced to do it at a particular time of the year when prices are jacked up. I would much prefer to see something on tv and say, "Scott would like that" and go get it randomly. So that's what I do normally. 

I told Scott that I wanted nothing from him this year for Valentine's Day and went on to further let him know I really meant it and wasn't just saying it. It was mostly for money reasons but also I don't like the forcing factor. If he wants to send me flowers any other day of the year just because, that's awesome. I love surprises. But to do it just to do it, ugh. Scott is realllllly good about sending me things at work and doing really nice things for me on these holidays. I don't want to sound like an ass.  I do appreciate them.

Anyways, I also had another reason for doing this. I wanted to do something for him. I don't think it should always be the guy doing something for the girl. So I surprised him with some candy and a massage and some other things I knew he'd love. The result? At first, he felt awful. He thought that I had really wanted something when I said I didn't and that he didn't come through on it. So I had to explain to him that it's not all about me. He relaxed and ended up loving it. And that is what the spirit of Valentine's Day is about. It's not about doing something because everyone else is doing it or about spending a lot of money. It's about doing something meaningful when you feel like doing it.

I took all of my ideas for how to make him happy and relaxed from the 5 Love Languages and knowing his primary love language.